Mom is Forever
Posted on September 7, 2010 by FoBaM-Jamie
Motherhood changes everything. That’s what they say, and it’s true. It changes your sleep patterns, your body, your work choices, your relationships, your priorities, your aspirations, your morning routine, your evening routine, and everything in between. It stretches you to reach into places you never knew were accessible to you, unearthing deep pockets of courage, ingenuity, and patience. It makes you stumble over roadblocks that you never considered before, giving you the chance to learn about the Real Life at every turn.
But, more than any of these changes, motherhood changes your heart. It’s not just that it’s bigger and more capable of love than ever before. Being a mom actually changes the way your heart works. Your children become a part of every equation. Your heart doesn’t make a move without them. Each decision is now predicated on how your choice will affect your kids. They are, more often than not, the deciding factor on the Big Things in your life.
Even when you’re not faced with any decisions, your children are always there in your heart. Ask any mother on any day about what is most important to her, and you will always get the same answer – her kids. World peace would be nice, but the kids come first. No matter where you are or what you are doing, a piece of your heart is always focused on your little ones – wondering what they are doing, if they are okay, and when they will be home.
And, apparently, that never stops – once a mom, always a mom. Though your role will change as the years fly by, the core essence of what it means to be a mom – to love unconditionally, without reservation, completely and wholly – only grows stronger and deeper as you watch your babies grow up. Though you may start out changing diapers and end up babysitting the grandchildren, you will never stop being a mom to your kids. You will always worry about them. You will always want what’s best. You will always share your opinion (for their own good, of course), and you will always remind them to bring a sweater, eat their vegetables, and mind their manners. You will never stop thinking of them as your little angels, and – happily – you will always be able to embarrass them with hardly any effort at all.
Motherhood – it’s the life-changing, heart-expanding, reality-altering experience that will stay with you forever. Aren’t we lucky?
Image Credit: J.K. Califf
I never had an idea of what I wanted to be when I grew up, least of all a Mother. At 33 when I had my son, I knew that I being a Mom is what was working toward all that time. Thankfully, I am great at it! Not to mention I have a wonderful husband who is a fantastic Dad! Our main focus is being parents. EVERYTHING else is secondary!
Viva parenthood!
Just got home from visiting my 2 college age boys today…and just put my 10 month old and 4 year old down for bed. I feel as though this article speaks of EVERY moment of my adult life for the last 20 years…all true and really resonating today. Love being a mom…
lovely and true, I do dedicate this to my mom and my three children I love for ever and for always without end!!!
This is a wonderful piece about motherhood!
@Wanda & Kate – thanks so much for coming by & for the lovely comments. Glad to have you here.
I have 2 children, had my first as a teen then my 2nd in my twenties and a gran in my late 30′s. I enjoy it all and enjoy being a big part of all their lives. My grandson is a baby but i look 4ward to watching him grow up very much. That was a beautiful piece. ER, scotland, uk
When you get those first baby blues you think aaahhh I would love a baby, then you have a baby and your whole world just goes topsy turvy in a lovely way but what you dont get told about that being a mum and a dad isnt always going to be this little baby in your arms they grow up and turn into young adults and nobody prepares you for that one…… but I love my two children unconditional and would do anything for them…. So mom is forever…. and even when your own mother goes…. you still have a mum and when i go they will still have a mum …. thanks for reminding me of that one!
@Evelyn – Thank you. It’s so wonderful when moms get to stay involved. I talk to my own mom every morning and I always look forward to our chats. No matter what, mom is mom is mom.
@Steph – It’s so true – we get all the preparation in the world for that first year, and then we’re kind of on our own. Thank goodness we seem to adapt (mostly) to the whole topsy-turvy thing!
I have two grown children(because they will always be children to me) mom are forever. But as you watch them grow, you teach them right for wrong and hopeful they stuff they need to become their own people. I never thought it would be so hard when they grew up and left home but it was one of the hardest thing I ever did even though I know I tough them well.both doing good but I wish they where little again my babys. My daughter is a mom of two now and my son is going to college