Top 10 Non-PC Reasons I Love Being a Mom
Posted on August 3, 2010 by FoBaM-Jamie
Each of us is a bona fide fan of being a mom. Good days and bad days, we love our kids and this wild journey – the snuggles, the laughter, and the wonderful moments of discovery. Of course we do. But, what about those not-quite-so-warm-and-fuzzy reasons for loving our mom status? You know, the perks we don’t like to admit to? Well, I’m coming clean. Here, in no particular order, are my top 10 non-politically correct reasons I love being a mom:
I love being a mom because …
- When I look at a younger, slimmer woman I can make myself feel better about my less-than-perfect body by saying, “Just wait’ll she has kids.”
- I have a built-in free pass card for any tardiness. “I’m so sorry. I would have been here sooner but my daughter threw up on my shoes just as we were getting in the car to go to preschool.”
- My inner “mama bear” gives me an outlet for my aggressive side. Let me be really clear, you don’t want to mess with mama bear. She will take you down and take you out and ask questions later.
- It gives me an excuse to buy all that awful, pre-packaged junk food that I never got to have as a kid. (Oh, don’t worry – it’s not all the time!)
- I am never at a loss for something to talk about as long as the person I’m talking to has kids. Seriously – ten minutes of mom-to-mom (or even mom-to-dad) sharing, and I can be best friends with anyone.
- I can blame any emotional outbursts on my hormonal imbalance. Sure, my daughter is six-and-a-half, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t residual fallout from the whole pregnancy/birth thing. That was a BIG deal!
- It gives me a majority vote on all household decisions. “Well, honey, I really don’t think that a pool hall in the basement would be best for the kids. I think what they’d really like is a swimming pool with an imported cabana boy.”
- No one can ever give me grief about undone housework. “I would have washed the windows, but I thought it was more important to spend quality time with the kids at the beach.”
- It gives me an easy out from unpleasant social engagements. “Oh, I’d love to come to your presentation of your trip to the Grand Canyon, but I just can’t find a sitter.”
- I can do or say pretty much anything and say my daughter made me do it. Whether I decide to wear stilettos to the playground, sing karaoke at the PTA fundraiser, or dye my hair orange; I can always say I did it for my little girl and no one will question a thing.
Ok, I spilled – your turn. What’s your favorite non-pc mommy perk?
Love it! I’d add that I have a built-in excuse for looking exhausted and wearing huge sunglasses all the time. Yawning during social interactions? Who can blame me? I have an 18 month old!
I have to admit I’ve used #9 lots of times! I’d add that knowing and singing (and actually liking) kids tunes from shows like Blues Clues and Yo Gabba Gabba in public! Ya can’t be faulted!
There is a part of me, okay a very big part that secretly loves it when my girls cry when someone else tries to hold them. Even though I say, “oh come on sweetie…” I am secretly adoring the clingy hug
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I love the big smiles and the excitement that comes when I greet them at the door after school! That makes all of my miserable day at work dissolve, immediately!
Someone always loves me no matter what I look like or what kind of day I’m having!
i get to drive the newer/bigger/pimped out (mini van named maggie) vehicle whether i have the kids with me or not
they also give me an excuse for not traveling to see family i don’t like…”well..the kids don’t do so well with the loooong trips back and fwd and they’d really miss the gerbil..and then there’s the dog” lol
my ultimate i think is it allows me to NOT make friends with people i don’t like…by simply saying “yeah i don’t see our kids getting along and we wouldn’t get any peace “
I have many reasons that I love being a mom but my secret non-pc reason would have to be all the shopping I get to do. I am a shopaholic, it is like my therapy after a tough week at work, so when I really need a good fix I shop for clothes or shoes for the girls and get my fix without our budget police (aka-dad) making too much of a fuss.
So just got back from Disney and hate to admit it, but everytime I got on a shuttle bus I always had a place to sit(no matter how crowded it was)! It was fabulous! Got to thank my kids for that one.
Nap time . . . where I can either get things done if I’m feeling super motivated or occasionally take a nap myself.
My favorite perk of being a mom is being able to go all out shopping for fun little things and get away with it by saying “its for our son”. I also like being able to go swimming and to the zoo and to other fun things that seem immature if you go to them without kids. lol
I also use #9 quite a bit but what i love most about being a mom is those “perfect” moments. The moments that only mom would find special. The moments when you all are sitting in the car singing along to veggie tales or when across the room you make eye contact with your son and he blows you a kiss. Watching them simple content with the world. Those moments remind me how precious life is.
I also enjoy that havng kids brings out the kid in you!! I might not be up to date on my prime time shows but you bet i know what diegos latest adventure was or can tell you the full line up for nick jr.
I love being a kid with my kids..they teach me to keep life simple, and live in the moment. They know how much I love them, and that makes me feel happy that I’m doing a good job!
I like #8 – I can ALWAYS find something else to do besides clean my house. Coloring with sidewalk chalk, playing in the sprinkler, going to the zoo, going on a picnic, snuggling on the couch watching Dora or some Disney movie. I didn’t have a very good childhood, so I’m reliving it through my kids. And I sure don’t have time to clean, lol!!
I love hearing my toddler say stuff he shouldn’t because it sounds funny in a tiny voice. I loved the first time he told his Dad “NO” and I knew the alpha male battle had begun. I love talking smack about people and can’t understand or repeat it yet… even though I am getting close to not being able to do that anymore. And I love that everyday is watching America’s Funniest Home Videos … running into the table because his blanket is on his head or doing a slip and slide across my kitchen floor because he stole my ice cold glass of water and dumped it out all over. I am pretty sure he is insane and I am loving every minute of it.
I love the fact that I’ve fulfilled a major life requirement of reproduction! I know life can go many different ways , and it’s all ok… But I get a secret satisfaction from going down my checklist: college, check… Job, check…Husband, check… Kids, check! Now just time to enjoy it all
@Christa – And being tired can also lead to being cranky, right … so there’s another perk!
@Krystle – Free pass from yukky obligations. Gotta love it. Yo Gabba Gabba … really? You’re really letting your hair down!
@Mommyof2lilladies – I get that. It’s nice to be The One and Only Mom.
@Rajgada & Sandra – Unconditional love is so wonderful.
@Dara – Great additions to the list. Thanks!!!
@Cindy & momofahandsomelillman – Never thought of that (I’m not a shopoholic), but great call!
@Marilyn – Priority seating – nice!
@Anne – Ahhhh … naps.
@Samantha – I have a soft spot for some kids’ TV. Little Bear is my personal favorite. Don’t tell, but I’ve been known to watch an episode after my daughter has gone to bed.
@Margagrite – Awwww.
@June – Three cheers for de-prioritizing housework!!!
@Nicole – “I am pretty sure he is insane and I am loving every minute of it.” Love that!
@karla – Yes … the kid thing is a BIG deal for many of us. Glad you’re taking the time to enjoy it now!
Nursing – I am loving my massive boobs that make my mom tummy look less ummm puffy =)
Plus I get an excuse to bask in my own superiority to those people who like to make nasty faces in my direction when I nurse in public – at least I know 100% there are not even contaminant possibilities in what I am feeding my baby!!!
Not having a 9-5 job. I get to stay home with my daughter which is a 24/7 job, but on our schedule. I absolutely hated a regular day job and was miserable. this is actually harder, but its on my time and my way. that and nap time I really dread the day she doesnt nap anymore because its a great time for me to get some zzz’s too… that is my dirty little secret.
I would have to say my fave thing about being a mom is when the kids say things like these used to be so and so shorts when they were a kid, or the love notes my six year old writes me to brighten my day. With three kids there are moments that arent so pretty but there are alot more pretty ones that make memories last. their first steps or words .MY son had his first stitches at two and all he was worried about was getting an ice cream from the ice cream truck not that part of his face was gashed open. Memories are made for a reason.
sometimes….I secretely love when the boys get a cold or what have you. I know, I know that sounds like Bad Mom of the Year Award. BUT, I don’t love that they are sick, I love that when they’re sick they LOVE to sit and cuddle with mommy. I can sit and cuddle and watch Disney movies and not have to clean up any regular messes all day because they don’t move from the couch. They just want mommy. And….they’re QUIET for more than 30 seconds and it doesn’t mean they are into something. Plus, I get a day off work.
When my kids have a bad day, it’s the perfect excuse for me to make a mountain of cookies and watch Disney films all day.
To me the best part of being a mommy is that i get to be a stay at home mommy now. i am able to help at school and be at home with them when they are sick and be able to try to rasie them to be awesome young ladies.
Same here, because of my little daughter I’m not forced to meet people I don’t like and to travel long distances to meet relatives by simply saying, ahh my baby is too small to let me meet u all… or she gets easily sick after traveling so I’m sorry I won’t make up to you..
I love being a part of the secret Mom’s club. From the minute I became a Mom I’ve felt like I’m in an underground organization where every other Mother in the world can relate with me, and we all watch out for each other and help each other out. It’s so cool now to be a veteran member and watch out for my Mom friends who just became parents. We swap birth stories, share advice & I get to teach them all my secret Mom tricks that only a Mother would know. It’s so much fun to belong, and it makes me feel a bit stealthy!
I love that every morning my daughter comes in the bedroom to cuddle with her daddy and me. She is my sunshine every morning. I am so lucky to be able to stay home with her this summer. I love her songs and dances she makes up to perform for me. She is such a princess.
@Mama Truluck – It’s all about “balance,” right?
@Bri’s mom – Don’t feel guilty. Moms DESERVE naps!!
@shannon – Ouch! My daughter split her head open this past winter & it was so scary. Glad that kids are less traumatized than we are about these events!
@”Mom” – First, I love that you left this anonymously, but i’m going to fess up right with you. I hate to see my little girl sick, but – as long as it’s not serious – it is a wonderful chance to just be with each other – snuggles, enjoying being held, no guilt about doing anything else. There’s something to be said for sick days!
@Becka – If I have a bad day, will you make ME cookies?
@Megan – It’s a wonderful thing to be able to stay home. I had that chance for the first few years of my daughter’s life and I wouldn’t have given it up for anything!
@Dr. Sehr – Yep. Though kids can control your life, they can also help you take back control in some areas!
@Erin – There are some things only a mother knows!!
@Atha – So sweet. That’s one of my favorite times, too … especially when she falls back asleep in my arms.
Even though people look at me (and my kids) like we’re crazy, I love when they see me at the store and yell “Momma!!!” all the way down the aisle. They’re old enough that I’ll occassionally be at the store alone and they’ll show up with some friends. No matter who they’re with they’ll run to give me a hug. Usually it’s contagious and before I know what’s happening I’m at the center of a teen-age hug fest
My kids give me an excuse to act like a kid again. Like playing in the rain and mud puddles. It’s so much fun at times when it’s needed.
Also, my kids give me an excuse to make comments to those jerks who throw out the dirty looks at the store. Especially when their kids where or are probably no better than my “I want” kids.
I love the fact that
being a mom is a gift
that once given
is never taken away.
I’m a stay at home mom, i love that i am their most favorite person in the world…selfishly even over daddy…i’m the one to make them feel better and make them happy when they are sad so i selfishly think i deserve this..lol Also now that they are both in school i can volunteer for the school and substitute teach….i love that i am the go to mom
I love being able to clear all the men out of a room by telling labor and delivery stories. This is especially nice if you invited “just the girls” over and one decided to bring her husband anyway…. I will look at the clock and time how long it takes him to high-tail it to the garage (where my husband is hiding!)
I love being a mom more then anything else in this world. I was told by 3 different docs for over a perod of 10 years that I could not get pregnant well they dont always know the truth cause I now have a 2 1/2 year old. She is smart and wity and comes up with al these things to make me smile every day no mater how bad I think things might be she makes it better. I might compllain about Nick Jr. but we know al the shows and all the songs we moght not know whats going on in hte world but if its on Nick Jr thats all that maters and we sing to all the songs my 14 yo step daufghter wants me to get out the house casue im crazy but I would not change nothing about her silly ways
I get to have the good cars, my husband just bought me a van, I love it and he gives me more because knowing that I am the one taking care of them when they are in school and when they are out I am there too., I am a substitute so he feels secure knowing that he doesn’t have to worry about the children…. and I love him for that and I also feel a sense of belonging in being a MOM
On a non-full flight, people just keep on moving past you when they see you have little kids. Great for us….more room to spread all the kid stuff out!
my kids are grown & gone, but i used to love shopping w/them at the grocery store. they were always SO well behaved, but when they did act up, people would say to me, “oh you are so patient with them” hell, i wanted to rip their little heads off! i’ve never thought i was a patient person, but i’d hear it lots of times, and that made me feel good. i liked if i wasn’t wearing the best combination of clothing, or socks didn’t match, i’d say, “the kids made me run late, couldn’t spend time in front of the mirror worrying about my outfit!” i agree w/lots of the #10 list, also!