Feb012010

When Martha speaks, kids listen!

marthaOnce upon a time, there was a real dog named Martha who inspired a seven year-old boy to ask, “Mom, if Martha ate alphabet soup, would she speak?” Luckily for children everywhere, that little boy’s mom was Susan Meddaugh. Her son’s imaginative query was the catalyst that inspired Susan to create the much-loved Martha stories about a dog who acquires the gift of gab when the letters from her soup wind up in her brain instead of her stomach.

In addition to the original series of six books, Martha also stars in the critically acclaimed PBS KIDS series, Martha Speaks. More than just a guilt-free way to keep the kids entertained for a half hour, the show is a rare win-win for moms and kids. Packed full of entertaining, educational goodness, each episode includes two stories designed to teach kids up to twenty “50-cent” vocabulary words. Characters provide definitions, usually organized around a central theme, within the context of the story. The result is fun and effortless learning that complements rather than disrupts the action.

Although the “learning goal” of Martha Speaks is to increase oral vocabulary, an important element of developing good reading skills, the show delivers much more. Martha provides kids with a wonderful role model, whom creator Susan Meddaugh once described (for The Bark magazine) as “Confident, honest, loving …” In addition, the show teaches about responsible pet ownership, a topic close to the author’s heart. And, of course, the characters and stories are genuinely entertaining. I’ve yet to meet the child who wouldn’t be fascinated by the idea of talking dog. The humorous adventures of Martha and her family often lure me to join my daughter on the couch in the morning.

The team here at FoBaM is thrilled to be collaborating with the Martha Speaks team at WGBH and Susan Meddaugh to bring you some inside scoop about Martha Speaks. Starting on President’s Day (February 15th), PBS KIDS will premiere a week of new episodes including a two-part special in which Martha helps the newly inaugurated President of the United States find a perfect pooch for the White House.


Martha Speaks | A Puppy for the President | PBS

If your kids aren’t already fans of Martha, this is the perfect opportunity to introduce them to the world’s smartest (not to mention cutest!) talking dog. While you’re waiting, visit the parents and teachers site on PBS to learn more about Martha, her creator, and the importance of strong vocabulary for long-term learning.

Coming Soon: Stay tuned for an exclusive interview with Susan Meddaugh and a Martha giveaway!

Jan282010

The guilty pleasure of reality TV

realityTVEach of us has her share guilty pleasures – midnight snacks, midday naps, a chocolate stash – but few are as fun to share as reality TV. What other pastime lets you bond vicariously over the gory details of someone else’s life without the risk of being labeled a neighborhood gossip?

Over the past few years, the viewing options in the reality category have multiplied like mutant rabbits. There are shows catering to all kinds of interests and more than a few that make you wonder exactly what the network execs were thinking.

I’m an unabashed DWTS (that’s Dancing with the Stars, for the uninitiated) junkie and an on-again off-again fan of American Idol. (I fall for the Cinderella story every time.) But, we’re not here to talk about what I like; we want to know what you like!

This is your chance to stand up for your favorite show. Vote for your guilty pleasure in the poll below, or let us know about any horrible oversights in our list of contenders by selecting “other” and leaving the name of your pick in the comments.

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Jan262010

Who Else Wants to Get Fit?

50sWorkoutEvery January the headlines at the checkout counter start shouting about losing weight, cutting carbs, flattening our abs, and tightening our glutes. Though we may start the New Year full of good intentions about taking better care of ourselves, too often Real Life comes in and kicks them out the window. Before we know what’s happened, we’re back into our regular groove of over-scheduled days and overflowing to do lists … leaving no time, energy, or funds for mommy’s fitness program.

Well, never fear – FoBaM is here! We’ve got 15 inspiring reasons to make time for personal fitness and 20 tips to help you leap over the hurdles that stand between you and your fitness goals.

Check out our list and then share your tips, tricks, and messages of support with the other moms out there who need a little extra encouragement. Like tip #18 says, sometimes what you need is a “buddy.”

15 Really Good Reasons to Exercise:

1.    Endorphins – Official definition: natural opiates (produced in the brain, by physical exercise or thinking happy thoughts) which act as natural painkillers. Real World definition: the stuff that explains women who go happily through labor and delivery without painkillers.
2.    Stress Release – Who needs stress relief more than moms?
3.    Better Sleep – Need I say more?
4.    Mommy Time – If you’re able to set time aside to exercise on your own, you’ll reap the extra benefit of some solitary down time … a mommy “time out,” if you will.
5.    Greater Confidence – Whether you’ve reached your fitness goal or not, taking action gives you a feeling of empowerment, a more positive body image, and the confidence to put yourself “out there.”
6.    Bonding Opportunities – If you choose to make your fitness routine a group activity, you’ll have the chance to forge new friendships and nurture old ones.
7.    Better Health – There are a ton of specific health benefits, but overall health is important for moms. After all, we’re the one who end up taking care of everyone else when they get sick!
8.    Greater immunity – When you’re healthy, your immune system is stronger, which helps you stay healthy.
9.    Increased Good Cholesterol – Exercise boosts the good stuff!
10.    Lower Blood Pressure – Even when the kids are pushing all your buttons, exercise will help you rebalance things in your favor.
11.    More Energy – It doesn’t make immediate sense, but working out does give you more energy. And, if anyone can use more energy, it’s moms!
12.    Stronger Muscles – Stronger muscles don’t just help you carry all those groceries, they also help protect you from injuries. Strong abs, for instance, help protect your back.
13.    Stronger Bones – Women in particular should do what they can to strengthen their bones and certain kinds of weight training do just that.
14.    Greater Flexibility – Stronger, more supple muscles lead to greater physical flexibility, and the stress-fighting aspects of exercise help make you more mentally limber as well.
15.    You’re Setting a Good Example – As moms, we do everything we can to provide for and teach our children. Investing time and effort in taking care of yourself by exercising regularly sets a great example for your kids to follow.

20 Tips to Overcome the Top 4 Hurdles to a Successful Fitness Habit:

I don’t have enough time.
1.    Look for minutes instead of hours – You don’t need to block out oodles of time; a few minutes here and there can make a big difference.
2.    Multi-task – Do a few crunches while you’re catching the evening news, a few counter push-ups while you’re waiting for the buzzer on the oven, some squats while you’re folding the laundry.
3.    Involve the kids – Instead of trying to squeeze exercise in around the kids, make it something you can do with them. Take them for a bike ride, push the stroller along at an accelerated pace, challenge your older kids to a little one-on-one hoops.
4.    Tag team with another mom – Ask a friend to swap child care with you for a half hour every other day.
5.    Find gyms that offer child care – If a gym is your style, look for ones that offer in-house childcare or children’s fitness programs.
6.    Target the “off” hours – Try to find a few minutes during naptime, when the kids are at school, before everyone gets up, or after everyone’s settled for the night.

It’s too expensive.
7.    Do it at home – You don’t need to go to a gym or hire a personal trainer. A little inspiration and a small space on the living room floor can be enough to get you started.
8.    Just get outside – The Great Outdoors offers lots of free opportunities to get your heart pumping. A simple, brisk, 20-minute walk every other day is a great way to get started.
9.    Make a small investment – If a $600 gym membership is out of the question, consider investing $20 in a workout video or book. You can also find free resources at your public library.
10.    Try a community class – Many communities offer low-cost exercise classes through a local YMCA or similar facility.
11.    Check your insurance – More and more health insurance providers are offering discounts for fitness services as part of their standard coverage.
12.    Do without another “luxury” – Your health shouldn’t be considered a luxury, but there may be something else in your life that you could do without.
13.    Barter – Do you have a service or product you could barter with the local yoga teacher, personal trainer, or aerobics instructor?
14.    Consider exercise costs an investment in your health – Sometimes, the cost issue is less about dollars and cents and more about an unwillingness to prioritize your health over other things. You deserve this!

I feel too guilty taking time away from the kids.
15.    Get over it – Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you have to put all other aspects of yourself aside. Moms deserve some TLC, too!
16.    Know that your happiness makes your family happy – There’s an old saying, “If momma’s not happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Exercise, be happy, and make life brighter for everyone else in the house.
17.    Make it a family affair – If you just can’t clear the guilt hurdle, consider making exercise a family activity. Do your workouts together, play Wii, have sit-up contests, go for bike rides, or enjoy other outdoor activities.

I’m just too tired and overwhelmed!
18.    Find a buddy – A buddy can give you pep talks, commiserate with you, challenge you, cheer you, and keep you on the straight and narrow.
19.    Keep your eye on the prize – When you’re feeling like you just can’t muster up the energy to do anything, remember all the reasons you made the commitment in the first place. Use visual aids, a reward system, whatever it takes to remind why you’re doing this for yourself.
20.    Tackle small hills, not mountains – Set yourself up for success. Don’t try to become a fitness diva overnight. Take baby steps, and soon you’ll find that it comes more and more easily.

Go for it! You can do it!

Image Credit: Horton Grou (1950’s army workout)

Jan212010

The secret of a mother’s courage

worldhandsAtlas has nothing on moms when it comes to carrying the weight of the world. After all, he was only a character in Greek mythology; we’re real women living in the real world dealing with the very real ups and downs of raising children to be good and happy people.

That journey has good days and bad days. There are lots of surprises (not all of them the wrapped-up-with-a-bow kind), plenty of erroneous assumptions (if I only knew then what I know now), and more survival by dumb luck than we’d care to admit. Each day our courage and often our patience are tested to the breaking point. Still, it’s a journey that we wouldn’t trade for all of King Midas’ gold.

The ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus said, “You don’t develop courage by being happy … every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” He may have been the wrong gender to be a mom, but his observations are fitting for those of us bearing that title.

None of us is born a mother; we evolve into moms. We learn on the job through repeated trial by fire. Each stage of life carries its own “difficult times and challenging adversity.” Whether we are ready or not, we step up to the plate each day and do the best we can. We get the baby to sleep, heal boo-boos with kisses, provide counsel in matters of the heart, and explain the sometimes harsh ways of the world … all while keeping the house relatively clean, the checkbook almost balanced, and some sort of dinner on the table.

Beyond the world of our own families, we take responsibility for the rest of the world. After all, it’s the greatest legacy we leave to our children. So, when we’re not tending to the daily needs of our own offspring, we worry about the big issues facing us and our planet. We reach out to help others in our family, circle of friends, community, country, and the world at large. As mothers, we feel a deep empathy for those in need and a strong desire to help fulfill that need however we can.

As we’ve all experienced, most recently with the disaster in Haiti, the Big World can be a sometimes tragic and frightening place. Even our Small Worlds hold their share of heartache and calamity. Although surviving can be painful and even heartbreaking, it can also bring out the best in people. We learn compassion, empathy, and we become braver and more courageous – reaching deep inside our hearts to do what needs to be done, because that’s what moms do.

Although, according to Epicurus, being happy may not create courage, I think that the courage of moms creates happiness. Each act of courage – no matter how small – opens doors, dispels fears, and proves that you can make the world a better place … even if, and maybe especially because, you’re “just mom.”

Jan122010

Out of the way! Mommy’s Organizing!

bulldozerA place for everything and everything in its place … now, where the heck did I put that …

One of pregnancy’s less dramatic side effects is the urge to, as it’s quaintly called, “nest.” I nested right up until my doctor hauled me into the maternity ward. Despite being 4 centimeters dilated (though I didn’t know it at the time), I was happily washing baby clothes, vacuuming, and tidying the nursery (for the 117th time).

But, maybe that’s just me. I know I’m a little (ok, a lot) Type-A when it comes to The Way I Like Things. For instance, I have the urge to tackle “spring” cleaning at least three or four times a year. January is one of those times. The holidays are over, my house is almost back to “normal” (there are always a few errant Christmas knick-knacks that manage to remain outside the cardboard storage boxes), and the air is full of New Year’s intentions and the sharp, tangy smell of fresh starts. I’m ready to sweep away the clutter of the old year and prepare myself for the new one.

So, I purge, organize, and clean … like a maniac.

You wouldn’t think anyone would have this much energy after the holiday season, but a woman on a mission to organize is a force to be reckoned with. Even my nearly six year-old daughter has learned not to get in mommy’s way. She may even be getting savvy enough to hide some of the items that might make it into my purge pile – like the dozens of happy meal toys that accompany her home from outings with my parents.

Though I readily admit that some of my activities are merely thinly-disguised procrastination methods (wouldn’t you rather reorganize your cook books than clean the bathroom?), there’s something almost magical about the way a “spring” cleaning leaves you feeling lighter, less encumbered. Clearing out the unnecessary and bringing order to what’s left gives a sense of empowerment, hope, and peace. How many household chores can boast those benefits?

What’s your favorite organizing task? What’s your favorite organizing tool? Do you do your “spring” cleaning more than once a year? Do the kids help, or hide? Were you always like this, or did you start only after you became a mom?

Jan072010

Resolution-Schmesolution

snowangelEach year as the first of January approaches, I wrestle with the same dilemma – to make a resolution or not. And, if I do make one, which one should I make? The list of things I’d do to improve myself and my life is, frankly, endless. How can I choose one endeavor over another? And just how effective are resolutions, anyway?

The word “resolve” brings to mind the idea of a strong and committed individual, capable of moving mountains and bringing about miracles (the job description of most moms I know).  On the other hand, even the best intentions can fall by the wayside, leaving the “resolute” individual with feelings of failure and guilt (something most moms already have plenty of, right?).

So, the gang here at FoBaM is curious about your resolutions. We’d like to play a little game. We’ve started the poll below, but we’d like you to finish it. You can choose up to three of the options already listed, or leave your own resolution in the comments below. We’ll add new items to the poll as we see trends in your comments, so you can vote on those as well.

Thanks for playing and here’s to a fabulous New Year!

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Oh, and – in case you’re curious – here are a few of our resolutions:

  • Eat dinner sitting down (all of us!) and refrain from answering the phone while we’re eating. (Sub-resolution: drop the guilt when I choose a glass of chardonnay and a handful of nuts for my dinner.)
  • Pick my battles more carefully. If my daughter wants to do her own hair, I’ll let her … even if her part looks like the Great Wall of China.
  • Say “yes” more often when the kids beg me for “just five more minutes of” something,
Jan052010

Solitude – Come and Get It!

dockreadingAt the best of times, moms are extremely short on time to themselves. Our days (not to mention our nights) are filled to overflowing with the hustle and bustle of caring for and enjoying our children, partners, extended family, friends, and co-workers. Our daily rounds shuttle us from one busy venue to another, filling every moment between dawn and dusk with chatter, activity, and the ever-present feeling that we’re late to be somewhere else. When we finally reach the end of a long day, we’re too tired to do much more than fall dizzily into bed.

… and then the holidays arrive, and things get seriously out of control. Our already hectic pace gets a turbo boost of insanity as we try to cram hours and hours of extra tasks and visits into an already overburdened schedule. Luckily, for us, the impact of all this additional “fun” hits us like a tidal wave, leaving little to no chance for us to worry and fret. Instead, we just ride the wave as best we can.

And then, it’s suddenly over.

For those of us in northern climes, the soothing quiet of winter settles in around us. The end of the year brings the urge to reflect and plan, but – still – we seem unable to find a few moments of time to steal away for a date with our own thoughts. I had the rare chance this past weekend to enjoy almost two solid days of time to myself, and I found the experience almost alien. It had been that long. It took me nearly the whole of my time alone to relax into the idea that I could spend time with no purpose, no deadline, no guilt, and no demands. When I finally surrendered to the moment, it was glorious. I read a book and a half (something I haven’t done for ages), watched a couple movies, and even took a nap. I felt like a new woman.

As 2010 lurches out of the starting gate, we’re hoping that each of you will find a way to give yourself a little mommy “time out,” if you will. We know from experience how challenging it can be, but also how worthwhile the effort is.

So, here’s to stealing away for a quiet walk, a good read, a creative adventure, or – dare we say it? – a guilt-free nap.

Please share your tips and tricks for creating these mini mommy retreats. You might just give another mom the priceless gift of a few moments of blissful solitude.

Dec172009

We’re giving away love … guess how much

GHMILY_insidepicThe chance to express our love to friends and family is what makes this time of the year so special. It’s amazing how quickly the year zips by. Life gets busy, moments come and go, and we never seem able to find just the right words to say ‘I love you.’ But, during the holidays we finally find ourselves ready to reach out with heartfelt words, hugs, and other tokens of our affection. Though the rest of the year may slip away, the holidays offer the perfect excuse to let our sentimental selves run rampant.

Of course, with young children, saying “I love you” is much easier. My daughter probably hears those words twenty times a day from me, and another dozen or so from other members of her family. Bedtime is especially full of snuggles and sweet nothings. Some of our favorite “lovey” traditions have been inspired by the bedtime stories we read. The book Guess How Much I Love You was the spark for a game called “I love you more than …” Much like Big Nutbrown Hare and Little Nutbrown Hare in Guess How Much I Love You, my daughter and I take turns coming up with creative ways to say ‘I love you.’ We may start with ‘I love you more than ponies’ and wind up at ‘I love you more than all the stars in the sky.’ I can’t think of any game I’d rather play.

Today, the FoBaM team is excited to announce our first giveaway, and we couldn’t be more pleased about partnering with Candlewick Press to share their Guess How Much I Love You collection. Perfect for any time of the year, a Guess How Much I Love You prize package will be delivered to ten lucky FoBaM members in January – just in time for a post-holiday-chaos, mid-winter warm up. The set includes a hardcover edition of the original classic, a box set of the board book edition with a darling plush, a boxed pair of two other great Nutbrown Hare titles – Colors Everywhere and When I’m Big, and a sweet baby book that’s just waiting to capture all your special memories.

To enter, simply leave a comment below on this blog post (with a valid email address) that completes the phrase “I love you as much as…” by midnight EST on December 31th.  We’d love to hear ways your kids have answered, your answers back to them, your favorites from the book, or just creative ways to say “I love you.”  Please note that the comment must be on the blog, not on our Facebook fan page. If you’re one of our randomly selected winners, we’ll be in touch by email to get all your shipping details so the nice folks at Candlewick Press can send out your goodies in January.

Good luck and enjoy the extra love of the holiday season! And feel free to spread the love by sharing this blog post and contest with friends and family through the Facebook “Share” button next to the blog or checking the “Share This Story” box in the comments area.

Click here for full contest rules. (You know – all the small type no one ever reads.)

Dec102009

Holiday Recipes … Yum!

holidaycookieThere are few things more universal about holiday festivities than the special foods that accompany our celebrations. Whatever tradition you observe, it’s sure to come with a selection of delectable delights that you look forward to all year long. Passed down from generation to generation, these special recipes are an integral part of the season.

After all, gathering around the table with family and friends is an important highlight of the holidays. We raise a toast and share both the feast and our joy. The food – often a mother’s expression of love – is a centerpiece of the social scene. Whether it’s a formal, sit-down dinner or a buffet of yummy appetizers, a gourmet triumph or a novice’s best effort doesn’t matter – just that it’s prepared and served with big helpings of love.

In my family, Christmas morning just wouldn’t be Christmas morning without my mom’s scones – glazed with egg whites and sugar, smothered in butter, peanut butter, and homemade jam. The smell of these flaky biscuits baking in the oven instantly conjures memories of holidays past. Though we occasionally indulge in them at other times during the year, there’s always something extra special about the Christmas batch.

We would never ask you to reveal your secret family recipes (unless, of course, you want to!), but we’d love to know what culinary traditions help make the holidays special in your home. Is it a breakfast casserole, a formal dinner, once-a-year cookies, or freshly baked bread? Is it a traditional recipe that’s been handed down from mother to mother, or a brand new creation from your own kitchen?

Dec082009

How Do You Handle the Holidays?

rockwellxmasrushI have always had a soft spot for Norman Rockwell, but this picture makes me want to resurrect the man and hug him. It so perfectly encapsulates, for me, a typical day during the Christmas rush (the apt title for this painting). The man truly knew how to capture the essence of a moment.

No matter which holiday you celebrate, the rush of the season is bound to bring its share of stress, strife, and surprises.  Whether you’ve planned your holiday to the very last detail, or are trying for the “winging it” zen thing; I have yet to meet a person (never mind a mom) whose holidays routinely go off without a hitch. Though this time of year is undeniably full of magic and joy, it is also – just as undeniably – full of nasty little speed bumps that can send your holiday train careening into a ditch.

We’re wondering how you handle the holidays. There’s no right or wrong, and your answer might change from year to year. Not to be a Grinch, but my favorite day of the holiday season is the day after – no more lists, relative quiet, no house guests, and kids who are happily entertained.

So, what do you think? Which one are you?

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